BN Counseling, LLC

Coaching and Counseling Social, Emotional and Relational Life Management Skills

Family and Marriage

It is said, that conflict in a family, is like porcupines hugging each other. In an attempt to protect and safe guard, they prick and hurt each other.

Family counseling helps with:

  1. enmeshment/diffuse boundaries
  2. rigid boundaries/distance
  3. parents not maintaining hierarchy/structure in the family (kids running the show without any authority figure)
  4. adjustment to change
  5. dysfunctional/non-productive communication patterns

 The benefits and value of family counseling:

  1. Strengthening the bond between family members , envision a better future together
  2. Working through the frequent disputes to find a supportive compromise
  3. An opportunity to repair past ruptures.
  4. Addressing personal temperaments and personal growth in a family
  5. Improving communication skills, to feel heard
  6. Settling your most sensitive conflicts in a more adequate way.
  7. Understanding your uniqueness within your family.
  8. Better coping mechanisms to current and future conflicts

Choosing Family therapy at BN Counseling:

In family counseling, there is no blame, shame or criticism. Instead, a more durable connection comes through attentive hearing and being truly heard, in an emotionally safe place. Cooperatively as a family, each member will begin to compromise for the sake of a unified and harmonious way of living.

At BN Counseling, we practice a strategic and structural approach to family therapy.  Our focus is on the current family interactions and conversations, while encouraging each member to process and question perceptions to find compassionate clarification.

During family therapy sessions, conflicts will arise and the therapist will educate on how to address the conflict, so that the destructive behavior becomes observable, and the family can work toward the resolution of the problem. Members will learn to communicate from the heart, by using empathy when listening and speaking to each other.

By adding EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) each member in family therapy is encouraged to express their experiences and emotions in a non-judgmental and secure environment. Through the release of vulnerable feelings of one individual and having it witnessed by another, a person gains insight into their own vulnerable feelings and how their behaviors affect the relationship as a whole. With an empathetic, supportive and non-judgmental framework, clients are encouraged to voice out their deepest concerns, and develop more productive future behaviors.